“In order to fuse emotionally, and therefore totally, it is equally necessary to express yourself truthfully toward the other person where this may not be welcome or desired. Not doing so under the guise of “loving goodness” and “taking it” is sentimentality and usually dishonest. For in reality the person merely fears the unpleasant consequences and is thus not willing to risk pain, exposure, confrontation, the hard work of finding reintegration of the relationship on a higher, respectively more profound level. This can be done without guilt and in a healthy way only when you have dealt with and eliminated your cruelty. As long as cruelty exists, you can never, never say the truth to others without hurting them.” (PL #207)