“Make a list of your faults. And if you can think of only two or three, then you have proof that you do not know yourself. Then you can avail yourself of the opportunity of self-purification and self-knowledge by doing what seems at first so difficult. Ask the people around you to tell you what your faults are. This will give you knowledge about yourself, and this will teach you the humility you need. For as long as it is difficult for you, it is a telling sign that you need just that very badly. If it is easy for you, if you do not feel resentment, resistance, or any kind of heaviness within, then it is not important anymore. But it does not matter what you try to tell others, it matters how you feel when someone tells you your shortcomings. If you observe clinically what you feel when that happens, if you do not want to fool yourself about it, you will know where you stand spiritually, because this is the only way you can really be detached, my friends. When your own shortcomings in the eyes of others do not matter anymore, when your humiliation does not matter anymore, then you are detached! — not when you avoid the things that bother you.” (PL #21)